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Being a Bachelor

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aero86:
ive been divorced for 4 years now.  i dont know if ill ever get married again.  ive two kids from the marriage as well, that i have custody of, so i dont need to have anymore!

Badger:
    Even though I have to admit that I really do enjoy life today my fondest memories are watching the kids grow up. I had a good wife but used to nag a bit too much and I was a pretty good husband but used to spend a bit too much time with my friends and hobbies. She ended up doing much worse than me and I ended up doing worse than her, LOL. Retirement is right around the corner now and I find myself reflecting on things much more. I think the biggest challenge some men have is to keep their woman entertained, my logic has always been that I never get bored, too many things right here in my own backyard that I enjoy doing. Thats not good enough for some woman or men for that matter. Trips to Vegas, expensive dinners and movies every weekend, vacations etc only solve the problem for that one day. Then you are left paying the bills and the boredom is still there. I made a bucket list after I divorced and I am still working on it. Making a bow and arrow was on my bucket list as was having a big garden. Not one thing on my bucket list cost a lot of money and not one thing requires that I be single. But they do all require attention and time.
lately I have been getting more and more pressure from a girlfriend to make a commitment and spend more time with her. I feel myself just wanting to run away. Not fair to her and not fair to me.
Really hard to stay true to myself sometimes. Steve

n2everythg:
Thanks steve,
I needed to see the other side of the coin right now. Your timing on this post worked out well for me. 

I like this post as it is about making the best of whatever life hands you.
wade

zenmonkeyman:
Sadly, the status quo is never good enough for some people (women).  I hope your girlfriend comes around and realizes you're both happy (I hope she is), and lets things continue under the existing rules of (non)engagement.

My wife has moved out (just over a month ago), and while I'm occassionally lonely and depressed, I also see a whole world of choices ahead of me that would be ridiculous to consider within the marriage.  I'm moving to the country, have secured a few acres on a lake, am planning my garden and orchard, my hunting, my chicken coop; my creative impulses can flourish unfettered by the debt of new shoes and hollow (expensive) entertainments.  I am debt free and intend to live quite happily and beholden to none. Except the wiener dog.

Now if only I can find a woman (independently wealthy) to share this with...  How's that for a long shot?

HoBow:
The transition to being a family man was tough for me, but couldn't imagine it different now. I do not miss my bachelor days at all!

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