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Title: My dad has been put on hospice
Post by: criveraville on October 02, 2016, 03:40:55 am
Good morning. On Tuesday, I took half a day off from school to take my dad to the doctor. In less than a month he went from living a self sufficient life to needing constant care and being confined to a wheelchair. My mom couldn't get him in and out of the car.

I never thought I would one day find myself sitting in a doctor's patient room to hear that my dad needed to go on hospice. He explained the process to my mom, my dad and I. Then I translated it.

That evening I sat our three kids down and let them know. It's been hard on Diego.

This morning my dad let me know that they are selling the place and moving an hour and a half away to be close to my sister. He said, "I'm old, I'm tired, I'm sick and I can't do anything outside anymore."

They will stay with my sister until that happens. I drive them up there on Thursday. I let the kids know about that today. They live five minutes away now.


Before receiving the news about hospice on Tuesday, I had begun an application to a medical facility in San Diego that my dad can receive a life saving treatment. You have to be accepted as a patient, and my dad qualified.

I'm asking if you could please keep my dad and our family in your thoughts and prayers. My dad was put on hospice on Tuesday. He has been given months to live. If you can please share this link on your social media and ask your friends and family to share it too, it would be very much appreciated.

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Thank you,
Cipriano
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Post by: Aaron H on October 02, 2016, 07:07:20 am
You and your family will be in my prayers Cip
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Post by: bjrogg on October 02, 2016, 07:29:41 am
Your dad and family are in my prayers. My mom passed 11 years ago. She was on hospice for the last 3 day's. I pray that they are as nice to your dad and family as they where for my mom. They have a hard job at a hard time in your life. They where very respectful and helpful at this very stressful time for my family.
Bjrogg
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Post by: Stixnstones on October 02, 2016, 08:10:38 am
Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. My mom has been in a nursing home for about a year now with dimentia. 2 months ago hospice nurses have been taking care of her instead of the nursing home nurses.They are just making things much more comfortable for her. It takes special kind of people to do that work.
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Post by: selfbow joe on October 02, 2016, 09:08:45 am
Thought and prayers to your family.
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Post by: PEARL DRUMS on October 02, 2016, 09:16:02 am
That's tough, keep your chin up Cip.
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Post by: Zuma on October 02, 2016, 02:03:20 pm
In my prayers. Like Pearly says,
It's a part of life. Be kind to yours
also.
Zuma
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Post by: Del the cat on October 02, 2016, 02:19:21 pm
My thoughts are with you, lost both my parents a couple of years back...  :(
Del
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Post by: JW_Halverson on October 02, 2016, 04:04:06 pm
There for you.
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Post by: bubby on October 02, 2016, 05:32:02 pm
will do amigo hang tough
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Post by: Chief RID on October 02, 2016, 08:21:24 pm
Prayer for you family is lifted up.
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Post by: Spotted Dog on October 02, 2016, 09:21:18 pm
 I understand the pain. My dad is there too. My prayers are with you all.

Dog
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Post by: Pappy on October 03, 2016, 05:15:00 am
In my thoughts and prayers Cip.
 Pappy
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Post by: country on October 04, 2016, 12:08:10 am
That's rough ..   I went through it with my dad too.  Healthy in May and died in August.  Still miss him a lot. 
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Post by: BowEd on October 04, 2016, 10:08:16 am
Thoughts and prayers here about your situation.My parents have been gone for quite some time.
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Post by: Pat B on October 04, 2016, 11:19:32 am
Cipriano, Hospice is an incredible organization. You can feel good that your Dad is in good hands with Hospice. Read all the info they have available and it will help your Dad, you and your family get through these difficult times. You and your family are in our thoughts.
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Post by: JW_Halverson on October 04, 2016, 12:59:19 pm
...And don't forget to tell him about all the people here that send him their best wishes. 
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Post by: Trapper Rob on October 04, 2016, 01:34:54 pm
We'll keep you & your family in our prayers & thoughts.
Title: Re: My dad has been put on hospice
Post by: criveraville on October 23, 2016, 12:13:23 pm
Falcon and Bjrogg, thank you for the thoughts and prayers. Bjrogg, I'm sorry for your loss.

stixnstones, thank you for the thoughts and prayers. I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I have been praying for you and your family as well.

selfbow joe and Zuma, thank you for your prayers and for thinking of us.

Pearly, thank you. I have found myself many times walking looking at the ground.

Del, thank you. I'm sorry for you loss.

Thank you JW! That means a lot!

bubby, thank you sir. I'm hanging on.

Chief RID, thank you so much for the prayers.

Spotted Dog, I'm sorry to hear that. Y'all have been in my thoughts and prayers.

Pappy and Beadman, thank you for the thoughts and prayers!

country, I'm sorry to hear of your loss. It's been a rapid decline for my dad.

Trapper Rob, thank you! Much appreciated!

JW, I told him what you said. It made him happy. One of the proudest things I've done is writing for Primitive Archer magazine.
Title: Re: My dad has been put on hospice
Post by: criveraville on October 23, 2016, 12:32:09 pm
Cipriano, Hospice is an incredible organization. You can feel good that your Dad is in good hands with Hospice. Read all the info they have available and it will help your Dad, you and your family get through these difficult times. You and your family are in our thoughts.

Pat, hospice came out. They were wonderful, but thankful my mom and sister didn't sign the paperwork.

On October 12, my dad went to San Diego and received the stem cell treatment. Within nine hours he could stand, walk, sit and drink a cup of coffee. It had been over a month since he could drink a cup of coffee because of all the shakiness.

Thank you for thinking of us and for your support.

Many thoughts, prayers and well wishes were answered for my dad. It will be two to three months before we know the full effect of the treatment, but my dad has been given time. Literally he's been given a better quality of life and time that he didn't have. The treatment is not a cure, but it reverses many of the symptoms that were leading to his slow death.

Pat, and all of y'all thank you so much for your thoughts, prayers and well wishes. You helped me during a very difficult time. I can't convey enough how grateful I am.

Cipriano
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Post by: Pat B on October 23, 2016, 01:40:47 pm
Cipriano, families stick together in a time or need.
 So glad your Dad didn't need Hospice.
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Post by: sleek on October 23, 2016, 02:01:34 pm
Im amazed to hear your father is doing so well, and glad of it for certain! But wow, that stem cell stuff is no joke eh?
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Post by: Aaron H on October 24, 2016, 08:51:09 pm
What great news Cipriano!  Never underestimate the power of prayer!
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Post by: YosemiteBen on October 25, 2016, 09:43:43 pm
Hey Cip. My dad is all we got left. I am glad things are looking up for you. Will keep you and yours in my prayers.
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Post by: criveraville on December 06, 2016, 08:27:41 pm
Thank you all for the thoughts and prayers for my dad and our family. I want to give y'all an update. From October the 13-23, after my dad had the stem cell treatment it was as if he were a new man. He could do everything he couldn't do the last two months. It's was an amazing miracle to watch. However, immediately beginning on October 24, it was as if he hit a brick wall. The symptoms came back with a vengeance and far more progressed than before the treatment. We continued to hold out hope, but my dad's health took a rapid decline. The best I can describe it if a person that didn't have vision was given that gift for ten days and then it was gone. That's how it was for my dad.

Since November 10, he's been to the ER twice and his doctor once. The doctors said he was far more progressed than about a month prior. He said my dad needed to be on hospice.

We have come to terms that my dad is facing a slow rapid death. It's been difficult especially for Diego. He loves loves his Buelo's and Diego is my dad's world.

The hospice lady and Chaplain have started visiting them. He's now on soft/blended/liquid foods. Many of his medications we ground into a powder and administer them to him in applesauce.

My son is now thirteen and he has started to act out some. We are all dealing with it in different terms. My older brother is in denial. He lives in California and I had to tell him that he needs to call my dad every day. My sister is terrified of what is to come. I believe I have been trying to be strong in front of my parents and that has made me numb. The kids especially Diego are anxious. My dad doesn't want to leave my mom and my mom is afraid of losing him.

Most days I honestly don't know I I make it from waking up to going to bed. Thank goodness somehow I am able to pull it through.

To all of you that are facing a similar situation or have faced, I am so sorry for the pain you have endured.

Sincerely,
Cipriano Rivera
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Post by: osage outlaw on December 06, 2016, 08:30:26 pm
My heart goes out to you Cipriano.  I know you have the strength to help your family through this tough time. 
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Post by: JEB on December 06, 2016, 08:41:41 pm
Hang in there Cip. Thoughts and prayer are being said up here in Michigan for you and your family.
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Post by: bubby on December 06, 2016, 10:01:36 pm
Cip ust try and be there that's all that you can do, I'm sorry my friend
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Post by: Zuma on December 07, 2016, 01:02:50 am
Saying a prayer for yourself I find can be helpful.
Just to meditate and clear your mind.
It has helped me deal. And deal we must.
These things are not our fault. We inherit them.
Your dad is lucky to have you. God Bless
Zuma
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Post by: Pappy on December 07, 2016, 04:24:08 am
So sorry for you troubles, Thought and prayers go up for you and your family. Sad but that is the way it is supposed to work, we bury our fathers and our kids buys us. That's life.  :(
 Pappy
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Post by: chamookman on December 07, 2016, 04:40:44 am
More thoughts and Prayers from Michigan Cip ! Bob
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Post by: Buffalogobbler on December 07, 2016, 10:17:59 am
My prayers and thoughts for your father, you and your family, may God give you all the strength to deal with all that you are going through.

Kevin
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Post by: paoliguy on December 07, 2016, 01:08:27 pm
You are in my prayers, I know its a rough thing to face. Be assured your Dad is grateful and proud of the things you are doing, that has to bring him some comfort.
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Post by: bowtarist on December 07, 2016, 02:26:43 pm
You'll be in my thoughts. Hang in there buddy. You've got lots of support here if needed. dp
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Post by: JW_Halverson on December 07, 2016, 02:42:54 pm
I'm here too.
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Post by: Pat B on December 07, 2016, 03:34:13 pm
Our thoughts are with you, your Dad and your Family, Cipriano.
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Post by: mullet on December 07, 2016, 06:11:27 pm
I'm very sorry, Cipriano but it's part of life's Circle. Hang in there, it's tough.
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Post by: bjrogg on December 08, 2016, 07:57:13 am
 Cipriano I was so glad to read that your dad had recovered then the roller coaster ride back down. Hang in there. I think the numb feeling is kinda our defense mechanism and totally natural. It's not that you don't have feelings it's just that in these times we have to suppress some of those feelings to be able to do the things we need to do for ourselves and our loved ones. Don't give up on praying, sometimes we have to change our prayers but never give them up. My son had a brain tumor when he was 7 months old. He had 54 surgeries by age 5. Many times I didn't even know what to ask for in my prayers anymore, I just asked for strength. I'm happy to say it's been 13 years since his last surgery and he is doing well. I still thank the lord every day. I pray for strength and peace for your mom and dad and entire family. Peace be with you
Bjrogg
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Post by: YosemiteBen on December 09, 2016, 12:50:27 am
Hey Cip! My prayers are with you and yours!