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Badger:
   Greg, I don't envy what you are going through right now. I could have written that exact same post 15 years ago. It seemd everything I did was based on how she might respond to it. Will a girlfriend make her jealous and come back home? Will a new style of clothes get her to look at me again? will this new job, etc etc. Nothing I did was about me anymore. I will share some of the good advice I got back then and skip the tons of bad advice I got. An old man told me I needed to become an actor, even if it didn't come natural if I kept acting it would eventually came natural. Someone else told me to pray that no matter what or who she was with that my ex would be happy, even if I didn't mean it say that prayer everyday, ( I had to say it about every 5 min).
One of the most important was to make a simple decision that had nothing to do with my ex, I decided I was going to just live my own life and be happy inspite of how much I still loved and missed her. I started working on my bucket list, lots of little things I wanted to do but never had time.
    Don't worry about meeting girls, I am about as ugly as ugly gets and I have had more woman than I could possibly handle after the first year, I stayed celibate most of the first year simply because I had no interest. My e email is Badger5149@aol.com if you feel like talking, it certainly doesn't hurt. Steve

madcrow:
I guess I am a beginner at being single.  I was married to the same woman for 20 years.  We never fought, but there just wasnt any love to be felt and personally i was miserable.  Then I found out she had been meeting with a man she met on the internet.  We tried to work that one out but it failed.  I gave her several chances to give it up and go back to the way things were, but she just couldnt give up the other men.  So on my birthday (May 2) I finished packing and left.  It is surprising that I really have not missed her, I haven't been down about anything.  She pretty much detested my hobbies and thought they were a waste of time unless I was giving her the money that I was making from them.  You never know how much bone, stone, and wood you have til you move out.  The good news is that I have met a woman now that seems to be my soulmate.  I have been out of the house for 2 months now and for the first time in many years, I am happy.  The new girlfriend is intrigued and very interested in my paleo hobbies, moreso in the end result than the whole process, but she will set and watch me make an arrowhead.  I hope it all works out for all of you, whetether you are married or single.  Being happy is the main thing.

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