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aero86:
but i never said id give her an ultimatum, and i wont, cause its not the way i work.  its just a promise she has made me, that she hasnt kept on two separate occasions

sailordad:
ok lets skip the whole quiting smoking thing,cause thats something she will onku succeed at WHEN SHE IS READY TO QUIT.
like the others said,she worked out for the last two years.so that might be something you will just have to learn to deal with.

now on the subject of "having more children"

in my opinion,like i said my opinion.

if she would like children of her own,and you said you were done having children of your own.
i think it would be selfish on your part to not let her have kids of her own.
but if you dont want anymore,it would be selfish of her to make you have them with her.

im not gonna say that you two need to split up.
i think you just need to sit down and do some real soul searching and figure out just exactly what you want from life at this point on.
if you cant see your life as happy without her,well then you may need to make some concessions and find that happy mid ground where the two of
you can be happy together.

who knows maybe you two will come to an agreement where you two end up happily married,with maybe just one more child (from the two of you)
and a non smoking wife.
lets face in this day and age every woman thats pregnant knows that smoking is very very very bad for the unborn baby  ;)

see thats the thing about a well worked out relaitionship
you give a little to get a little in return.

jm2cw

good luck

aero86:
thats really my biggest concern, because she doesnt smoke anywhere near my boys.  i just feel that ive had my fair share.  idk if i can keep up with another baby and 2 kids already!  i dont know how to approach her on this topic..  i care a lot for her, and would like to be with her, i just dont want to keep anything from her that she wants.

mullet:
 It sounds to me like you have more issues than babies and smoking. You say you don't know if you can keep up with another baby and two kids, too? I remember my wife getting up with the babies at 3 in the morning more times than me. And when it comes to having kids, I'll give you a fact, unless you want to be a Monk, you have no control over that. If she wants a baby, she will have a baby.

aero86:
i understand that, but with my first 2 kids, i was the one that worked, and got up with the kids.  my kids are 4 and 6, ive had custody of them for 3 years.  i think ive had my fair share of babies.  i dont have any other issues besides the babies and smoking.  i think i know what my limits are physically and monetarily.  i know that babies happen, my first two were that way.

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